Let’s Face It, People Suck
I remember as a kid occasionally trespassing onto the guarded properties of the discussions of weight. In conversation, I was a wanderer, and I had a pretty good idea about what sorts of subjects should be off-limits and what should not. What I mean by that is, staying between the lines in mannerly conversation was rather intuitive. The one subject that I had to learn about was weight. Men would discuss weight…depending, but women generally did not want to divulge. Ok, fair enough. Don’t ask your mom, or Aunt Betty, or Mrs. Miller how many pounds she was packin’. That’s a no-no. Noted.
What tended to throw me was, let’s say, by the time I was in junior high. My friends became more kids of both (cisgender) genders, and less just a pack of cub scouts. So, conversations evolved within the new social arrangement. And within those groups where a girl might just as easily be my best friend as a boy, the subject or weight remained fixed. Girls tended not to discuss a number where boys were mostly indifferent. I can recall many conversations over what seemed at the time to be many years, where I said, I am looking at you. I can see you. If you tell me the number, you’re not going to change one way or another. I don’t recall that argument ever once being effective. Looking at the evidence, and hearing an empirical assessment of that evidence were worlds apart. Never the twain shall meet.
Over the years, and now over at least several decades, I have had the occasion, and even the obligation to ask all manner of personal questions. I am naturally curious about people, so I have logged lots of useless information, just as a preoccupation. In all of that time, and through all of those trials, the only thing as slippery as the subject of weight is racism. Racism is like a person standing next to you, going face first into a cake, with no hands or utensils, making noises of pleasure and delight, but never giving you the number in their head. Dude, I can see you eating that cake, you’re not even trying to hide your intense desire for it. What difference does it make if you claim your actual weight?
None. It doesn’t make a damn bit of difference as long as cake and being fat are legal, and they are. Being a racist is just like that.
When I was becoming a Marine, I remember being concerned that the “brainwashing” that was rumored would change me. I went in expecting that I’d go to war soon, and I did not mind that. What I did not want to recognize myself within my own mind because of some programming. The change was different from what I expected. Change happens. It happens fairly quickly…but you do still recognize yourself. The important part is, my inner voice is still the same. I felt the same way about family, Christmas, puppies, hometown…whatever. Barely drank then, rarely drink now. Never got a tattoo. Same dude.
My concern when I joined the LAPD was similar, but a little different. It was a little more grounded than than the spooky ‘brainwashing’ thing. Most who discussed the career with me talked about becoming jaded to humanity by seeing the underside of it on a daily and nightly basis. Another very close, yet slightly different concern was about burnout. One is related to the other. Among the people discussing burnout and becoming jaded were the LAPD psychiatrists themselves. They explained in mandatory meetings that this sort of thing was a real possibility without careful self care.
In 5 and a half years in the USMC, and 5 years on the LAPD, I can safely say that I never became jaded. I can officiate at a scene where there are dead bodies, but I avoid films where there is gratuitous violence. I have the same disgust for inhumane treatment now as I did when I walked out of a movie theater in high school where my friends and I went to see “Humanoids from the Deep.” I never developed a thirst for or indifference to violence.
For me, the real loss of innocence came in my 50s. I came through what I thought might be a challenging 10 years completely unscathed. The last 4 years, however, represent the greatest loss of innocence for me than any previous period in my lifetime. The shock of seeing Donald Trump elected was somewhat stunning. I have almost lost the ability to describe it because the world of decency has deteriorated so much since then, and that occurred in a different context of innocence and expectation. Who hasn’t known that politicians are soulless and mendacious, but what I have seen, from so many, in the last 4 years would make Satan blush. (You can’t hide, Lindsay Graham). There really are too many to name, and they are not all Republicans…although they vastly outperform Democrats in fully foul fuckery.
So, when we entertain the question of is Donald Trump a racist? Yeah, almost certainly. And while that’s not a good thing, that is probably one of his better, least harmful qualities. Are his supporters racist? Probably. Probably not. Yes, and no. Most of all, it hardly matters. This society is full of racists, and morons, and all sorts of other creepy shit that never gave me nightmares in my 20s. I once found a head and a pair of feet in a dumpster in an alley behind Santa Monica Blvd, and it bothers me much more that our government is taking children away from people at the Southern border. DHS is making women have hysterectomies. Trump is talking to crowds about “good genes”, and our people versus those people. We sped way past racism. We are at the Nuremberg Rally rest stop. Trump laughed his way through an impeachment and is doing the same collusion with Russia as we speak.
Once upon a time, I would have told you that this was not possible.
Ron Powell
09/23/2020 @ 5:52 pm
@ Bitey;
“We sped way past racism.”
I’m not sure that we have gotten past that which may be described or characterized as:
the vehicle,
the fuel, and
a passenger…
Racism in this society/vehicle is as ubiquitous and pervasive as the oxygen in the air we breath…
If we’ve gone past racism, when and where was that?
If we’re only at the Nuremberg Rally Stop, where exactly are we headed?
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 6:21 pm
I’m headed to the store for ammunition, and dried oats. (A little SHTF joke).
Look, for years…most of my life, I have heard people argue how terms like fascist or Nazi should never be used to compare some contemporary right winger. Those terms were to be held in hermetically sealed boxes, only to be used in the event that Nazis or Fascists reappeared. I always disagreed with that. Not to say that every right wing group was a fascist or a Nazi, but rather that we would lose the understandings of the pathways to those conditions. Now, I think one snuck up on us and should not have. Suddenly, I think we are left to waiting around and hoping that the GOP doesn’t just do something previously unthinkable. Impeachment doesn’t work. The Constitution is a scam. Article 25 is a joke.
Where are we? What would Donald Trump NOT do? This election will tell us. If Trump wins, or if he loses narrowly and refuses to leave, democracy died 4 years ago. We just don’t know yet. I’m repeating myself but impeachment failed. It didn’t fail for lack of evidence. It failed for lack of being willing to uphold the Constitution. So, where are we once Orange Hitler snatches the Presidency for life? Deep trouble.
Ron Powell
09/23/2020 @ 6:47 pm
“If Trump wins, or if he loses narrowly and refuses to leave, democracy died 4 years ago. We just don’t know yet.”
I expressed this sentiment within 2 days of Clinton’s concession…
I kept saying over and over that losing was not an option…
The fact that we’re in deep shit is putting it mildly…
Trump and Barr are preparing for an open armed conflict or a civil war while the Democrats, Latte, and Limousine Liberals will be wringing their hands about winning a debate…
No one here is more disgusted than I….
BTW
Where can I get an AK 47 and Ammunition?
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 8:06 pm
Cabelas.com.
Koshersalaami
09/23/2020 @ 6:20 pm
Ron,
The answer is twofold”
The first is that we’re looking at taking racist behavior to different extremes than we’ve seen in recent pre-Trump history, such as separating children from their parents and putting them in cases, involuntary hysterectomies, and making public proclamations about racial superiority.
The second is that we are watching a coordinated attack on American democracy and democratic process that has no precedent. The incredibly casual disregard for truth and the blatant effort to delegitimize it. The unwillingness by hundreds in Congress to hold a President to standards that include not facilitating foreign interference in American elections. The use of federal resources for partisan purposes. The open use of federal resources for personal financial gain by a sitting President and his family. The sacrifice of hundreds of thousands of American lives for the purpose of improving one’s chances in an election. The interference with medical attempts to reign in an epidemic that has already cost over 200,000 American lives. The attempted use of the military to interfere with peaceful protest. The blatant attempt at winning an election by interfering with one side’s ability to vote at all. The blatant attempt at theft of the Supreme Court.
Hillary was literally right about the Deplorables, because the worst thing about this, the really worst thing, is that it is acceptable to tens of millions of Americans. This is a deeply frightening deterioration of common American standards.
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 6:23 pm
Better than I could have said it.
Ron Powell
09/23/2020 @ 6:36 pm
@Koshersalaami;
“This is a deeply frightening deterioration of common American standards.”
This is deeply frightening deterioration of common American decency upon which common American standards are predicated…
Trump’s”base” is fully capable and seemingly prepared to drag us all down….
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 6:49 pm
It sounds alarmist and a bit cliche, but the Trump party is a death cult. They can reasonably know that Covid can be deadly, yet they flock together without protections. You can watch a bump in cases and deaths over the next 2 weeks to a month after each gathering. That’s frightening enough, but the really frightening thing is that they do it willingly. They are not concerned for their own safety. And if they are not concerned for their own safety, the only limit to what they might do is the force that their opponents can apply to them.
Koshersalaami
09/23/2020 @ 7:41 pm
I don’t think they aren’t concerned about their own safety. I think the don’t believe their own safety is involved. These are people who buy into lies very easily, including the idea that the epidemic is a hoax or no big deal or whatever.
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 7:52 pm
When I was a young kid I came up with the notion that the worst beings on Earth are insects and reptiles because you can’t look into their eyes and glean any sort of understanding from them. You can’t negotiate with them or assess what they understand.
Now it seems to me…Republicans are kinda like that.
Koshersalaami
09/23/2020 @ 7:59 pm
The diehard ones are. They believe in an entirely different reality which isn’t a reality at all, it’s a series of self-serving myths.
Bitey
09/23/2020 @ 8:03 pm
Oh by the way…did you hear …? About an hour ago a reporter asked Trump if there would be a peaceful transfer of power. Trump answered that “if we don’t get rid of the mail-in ballots there wont be a transfer at all. There would be a continuation”…or something like that.
This dude is freaking me out.
koshersalaami
09/24/2020 @ 1:17 am
Not his call
Ron Powell
09/24/2020 @ 5:59 am
@Koshersalaami;
“Not his call”
That’s not the point. The man has said more than once that he does not intend to abide by the election results…
Most of what he has done is ‘not his call’…
Kosh, you must take your head out of your compromising
centrist, wait and see, benefit of the doubt box…
Trump will not abide by the results…
He intends to make a transition look like an illegitimate power grab by the Democrats…
He may well have to be forcibly removed from the White House if the Democrats develop enough guts and backbone to use force under dubious constitutional and legal circumstances….
The man will foment and precipitate a civil war to keep from being exposed and having to face certain criminal prosecution…
Trump is capable of ANYTHING…
Why do you believe that he would function within the framework of what is, or isn’t, “his call”?
Bitey
10/01/2020 @ 11:30 am
Assuming Trump does try to make any transition look illegitimate, I do not think he would stick around for it. Trump is not Fidel Castro. He’s more Eva Peron. Whatever happens, unless Trump is in prison, which I do not think will happen, he will spout off about how he was robbed, and the US government is criminal. He will encourage violent protests, and such…but he wont be anywhere close.
Koshersalami
10/02/2020 @ 2:31 am
Not his call is exactly the point. He doesn’t have the authority to nullify an election. The courts have to do that. If they don’t rule in his favor, he gets escorted out of the White House on Inauguration Day because he’s no longer President.
Assuming COVID doesn’t kill him, being as it was announced tonight that he has contracted it.
Which now means I’m worried if he exposed Biden.
Art W. Stone
09/24/2020 @ 10:04 am
208 lbs. but I managed to get on the balls of my feet so my BMI was not so bad.
Koshersalaami
09/24/2020 @ 12:28 pm
What did Jon Anderson of Year call it in Close to the Edge? Total mass retain
Koshersalaami
09/24/2020 @ 12:28 pm
not Year, Yes
jpHart
10/06/2020 @ 1:50 pm
” I went in expecting that I’d go to war soon, and I did not mind that.” Rich stuff. Hope you don’t mind if I use ‘seasoned gumshoe’ — ‘often as precise as an intellectual tachometer’ or ranked ‘deep country combat vet.’ As a reflexive aside, POTUS has an innate talent for absorbing ‘big screen (TV)’ media for days on end. Nowadays no news broadcast escapes flamboyant portraits of our Commander in Covid yelling scaring threatening ass-padding violent true believers towel snapping deranged would be mass homicidal maniacs such as the sick teen ager in Kenosha with his assault anti-personal weapon slung toward horrific pandemonium. Our CIC as predictable as an alarm clock—the one alluded to too infrequently as DOOMS DAY CLOCK—your composition an American Tune—Bitey. Your curriculum vitae amazing as grace . . . I would have edited the title to People Who Need People. Thus far in Milwaukee, 2020, 17 children have been murdered by gun shot. Many here among us with the gift and fortitude to fact find, you know, inverse the pyramid, we attempt to trace lesser discussed government ‘command errors’ such as the sunset of the Brady Bill. Just saying that Biden/Harris are that thin blue line; and, you know, thank the Lord Almighty!
jpHart
(just a poet. Somewhere on Rt. 61 near Winona, MN. Beulah and me singing all of Leon Russell…campfire coffee…so fine! Seven then eleven long necked geese strongly mysterious as the wind!)
Myriad
12/09/2020 @ 6:02 pm
trump’s election, his even-more-supporters-today, his apparently on-going support – these things are desperately disillusioning re any shreds of respect for humanity. That said, I have a friend who is a trump supporter and is a decent person – we never discuss because screaming would ensue – and I am studying her to see how decency and extreme indecency can reside in the same person.
koshersalaami
12/09/2020 @ 10:47 pm
They can reside in the same person because of faulty information. There are things she believes to be factual that aren’t, and getting people to believe wrong things has become easier. I’m not talking about philosophy, differing takes on morals, any of that; I’m talking about thinking things about people that aren’t factually true. Correct that information and manage to get that correction bought and things change. It’s not necessarily that she has two sets of morals, it’s that she has one set but she’s plugging faulty information into it.