STOP! Unless You’re Good at Golf…
There is a carwash that I like to use, just a few blocks away. Moving to Virginia has brought with it a number of peculiarities. One of those seems to be that coin-op, do it yourself carwashes are illegal. I don’t know this for a fact. I have not investigated it, but there don’t seem to be any to be found. I have searched the streets and I have searched the internet. No such luck.
Anyway, at my particular automated carwash of choice, one of the guys standing at the front who guides you in is particularly bad at it. It seems like he has given it no thought from the driver’s perspective. When he stands there and gives signals, he hold both hands up , and makes a flutter motion with his right hand, as if he is fanning himself, while also impatiently waiting for you to get into line so that he can go to the restroom. His gesture is too small, too difficult to decipher, and gives the slight impression that he is being impatient with you.
I have been tempted to roll down my window and give him instructions about how to do this in a way that is more easily understood. I have refrained from doing so, because I fear my intention would likely be misunderstood. Misunderstandings are a significant portion of our society’s disfunction currently. Often it seems like, if only this one thing could be done differently, so much would be resolved.
In the years since I was a police officer, I see other police officers doing things, from small things to large, that could just make so many things easier/safer, if only…. These days, I just take a deep breath and let someone else handle it. Many officers do this particular thing incorrectly too. People are not learning, and people are not being taught. That’s all that I can surmise about this fairly simple gap in human communication.
I have logged my time directing vehicles and aircraft from small to large, starting in the USMC, and later as a LAPD officer. Situations arise where anyone might be needed to take such control, and two of my stops in life thought to teach their wards how to function in these cases. There is a correct/orthodox way to do this sort of signaling. It works like this: First, the person doing the directing take a stance/position in the middle of the action, and gestures with authority. You point to the person you are directing, and then begin the instruction. The instruction should be one hand pointing in the direction that you wish the vehicle to travel, and the other hand waving in motion toward that side. For example, if you want the vehicle to turn to (your) left, you point your left forearm to your left, and wave your right hand from center to left, toward your left side. When the instruction is for the other direction, the gestures are flipped. The motion on both sides starts at the elbow and uses the lower half of your arm. This is very important. The motion is large enough to be seen clearly from a distance, and smooth enough to not confuse laziness for urgency. It sounds like a tiny thing, but I think it is a symptom of much larger deficiencies in communication in our culture. For whatever reason, people do not know how to lead, and that seems to inculcate an inability to sensibly follow.
Leading and following are rather loaded concepts for modern Americans. So many seem to think that someone is trying to take advantage, and thus, are quite suspicious of leadership. This is especially so when someone steps up to lead in a crisis situation. Too many seem to think about what that person might be getting away with rather than what he is actually trying to accomplish…in service of all within view. Somehow, this double sided cynicism makes messages get under sent, and under heeded.
This seems to be what happened Friday morning. In case you have not heard, Scott Scheffler, “the world’s top golfer”, was arrested and charged with felony assault on a police officer. I saw this on the news Friday morning, and the many news reports left me with a similar feeling that I had driving into my local carwash. I watch the way the reporters and anchors discuss what little information has been released, with absolute astonishment. Again, little has been released about the incident, and much less on Friday morning, but one thing was very clear to me immediately. Someone did not follow instructions.
The reporters, Jonathan Lemire in the first case, immediately described this as over-zealous, militaristic policing. Another news analyst on the MSNBC panel compared the incident to Beonna Taylor. This coverage went from zero information to absolute absurdity in less than 5 seconds.
Now, I like MSNBC. I like Jonathan Lemire more than most on this particular channel. I became a fan of Lemire’s reporting when he attended a meeting between Trump and Putin in Iceland at the beginning of Trump’s term. Lemire is good at what he does, and this is why I am so stunned at this absurd misreading of what this incident actually was.
This incident took place at the PGA championship, well, just outside actually. Scheffler was trying to make his early tee time, and failed to heed an officer’s instruction, who was guarding an intersection where someone had been killed by a tour bus. Now, it may or may not be common knowledge that when there is a traffic fatality, the scene is locked down so that evidence can be collected. Without knowing all of the details of the incident, I do know that this was the case here. That is the reason for the officer’s “militant” actions. When the driver failed to yield to the officer’s instructions, the officer jumped onto the car, and was dragged, eventually fell off, and was taken to the hospital for treatment.
Hundreds of miles away, I wonder about my own whiplash when my head snapped at the screen as the reporters could only talk about Scheffler being a golfer, and the officer being…somehow the problem. Not only is Scheffler a golfer, but he is number 1 in the world…ya know! (As if that matters.) I guess you’ll have to see the coverage for yourself, but it is as if they were saying…he golfs, he’s suburban…wealthy…you know….WHITE! His name is Scott, for gosh sakes. He’s not guilty of this. It’s a misunderstanding. It’s not like he’s some football or basketball player.
It’s a misunderstanding, alright! Scheffler was told to stop by someone with the proper authority to tell him so. Scheffler didn’t stop, to the detriment of the officer, and the public at large. Scheffler didn’t understand this. That’s bad enough. The reporters don’t understand this. That is possibly worse. They are not helping the dissemination of knowledge that in certain cases, it is someone’s purpose to instruct, and others are to follow. I don’t know what the officer’s instructions looked like. I’d say that there is a even chance that they were substandard, but that is not the point. There are two general possibilities for “misunderstanding” here. One is that Scheffler was completely oblivious to the officer’s attempts to stop him. That would make it Scheffler’s fault. The second possibility is that he simply ignored the offer. That also makes it Scheffler’s fault. Nothing, absolutely nothing, of this has anything to do with the fact he is a golfer, or even that he is currently the best in the world. Not a bit. Even someone meeting those general characteristics must submit to the officer’s authority in a case like this. I suspect that this is news to Scheffler. My great lament is that this is also news…to the news.
05/19/2024 @ 11:48 am
I cannot imagine a more boring afternoon than one which included chasing a small ball across pesticide slathered lawns.
I don’t play golf and wonder why others do.
Best in the world is meaningless to me.
But obeying lawful directions has a purpose seemingly missed by many these days.
Here, the danger is the tourists at the beach. Most have driven 60-90 minutes to get here and may end up in a 3 to 4 hour return in a traffic jam after good weather. The sense of pending urgency creates very noticeable bad driving habits. There are three intersections with regular traffic lights on Highway 101, but the rest of the town is regulated by stop signs here and there. At best they are seen as warnings that someone may be slowing down in the general area.
It seems to me that Sheffler would likely run stop signs here, as he is a clear participant in a me first mind set that has taken over the nation.
Still using a cane yet for another month or so I was nearly mowed down in a designated cross-walk on my own street which has a 25 mph limit.
A few days later, a local officer by the name of Bill was chatting with me and told me he had seen it happen and wanted me to know he had pulled the driver over and cited him. That means he saw me wave my cane like some sort of deranged codger, shouting an unpleasantry at the offending driver. No citation was given for my outburst.
05/19/2024 @ 11:56 am
It is as if Osama bin Laden hit a baseball, ripped the seams, and the force tore the cover off of the ball. Then the twine inside got caught in the grain of the bat and started to unravel. By the time the ball clears the fence, there will be no more ball.
Maybe I’m crazy, but Bin Laden’s words haunt me when he said that this society was so unjust that all they needed to do was nudge it, and we would tear ourselves apart. About a quarter century later, that appears to be what is happening. Supreme Court wives are flying Old Glory upside down. (That’s right in my new town, btw). We struggle to put a gangster former President on trial. And, mark my words, this golfer will not be held accountable for his malignant privilege. I’m no fan of bin Laden…but he appears to have been right about us.
05/19/2024 @ 5:11 pm
Mr,
When I get as LO;} as you’re sounding I, A): do 25 fingertip pushups while spinning ‘Impossible Dream’ B):
then a couple of dozen sit ups on my incline bench after those six real deep inhalations (unless it’s foggy). No kidding divide and conquer is the maxed out trump card. This I learned from dear buds who is (or was) a walking wounded Vietnam combat veteran with sciatic challenges. Next? […more irons in the fire than a NC folding ranch…] Perhaps a far-out creative Haiku captioned: GUANTANAMERA whereupon my 17 characters (letter x letter) vertically transcend-descend toward day’s end and page EDGE … a dozen, like for the brotherhood of man.
Hence & Pence! No doubt COVID nowadays ISis VIDCO. Surprised that the great golfer does his own driving:) Praise the Lord that Officer of Tranquility is save and mending and got to go home! Wedge irons indeed!
05/19/2024 @ 7:46 pm
It’s Bitey.
05/20/2024 @ 3:06 pm
Sir Bitney, in this era of bowlers and browsers … just misread my screen icon Fact Checkers as Fast Checkers.
Through the pouring rain before long the blues and haze caught me, I collapsed and the other blokes began to ceremoniously march around me. I heard bells toll and before long the whole night lit up with angels—their hair as golden as a gilded maple leaf, while the deep sky remained black-opaque as the ink of a thousand fountain pens. Yet I said to myself ______
05/21/2024 @ 3:16 pm
Sorry Bitey,
Some blame the bossa nova but with me it’s ergonomics.
Counter of crows. That’s how the story goes. Winston Churchill … Have we forgotten Winston Churchill💦
05/24/2024 @ 12:16 am
MP’s give the best traffic signals.
My biggest problem with Trump is that he thinks like Sheffler. The rules aren’t for him and neither is civic responsibility.
05/24/2024 @ 12:24 am
That is precisely the connection that I hoped someone would make. It is a very small thing that makes for a very big problem.